The first 40 days are the most delicate and difficult.
I am expatriate from Italy to Norway. I am the mother of a son born in Italy and a daughter born here in Oslo. I had two different experiences in post-natal support. In Italy I had my family and friends and I had no one here. Despite the support received in Italy, I felt very lonely anyway.
This made me reflect, and it was after the birth of my daughter in Oslo in 2008 that I decided to start an Italian blog of support in childbirth and beyond.
I felt the need to support women in the various phases, first becoming a birth doula and then also a postpartum doula.
As such, I see the lack of support in the first phase after the birth of our babies.
I want to give the input for creating a community support network.
How to do it?
There are several ways to organize post-natal support but it is important that it is organized in advance, I would say that it is a good idea to start during the last trimester of pregnancy.
In many cultures, we talk about 40 days of confinement. The first 40 days are considered necessary for the physical recovery from childbirth, but I believe we need much more time. It is in this period, in many cultures, that the mother stays in bed with the baby while being cared for in everything. Not always this is possible even and especially if, like me at that time, you do not have family and/or close friends.
A period of rest and bond seems ideal and beautiful, but it may seem unrealistic. For this to happen, mothers and fathers must be able to ask and accept help.
In our culture, asking for help is difficult. We are more inclined to give help than to receive it. This is where I promote a change of attitude. By welcoming the help, you feel less isolated and you can discover the power of the community. Allow friends, family or neighbors to help you and get involved in this special moment of your life.
What kind of support
In our culture of the past we saw family members, friends or the “village” involved. The village no longer exists and in our busy lives or with families living far away, we must look for different ways to organize help.
There are few types of support that I am offering:
- A Postpartum doula who can give support for specific tasks for an agreed time in the week at your home. Check my Postpartum Packages page.
- Local circle of wise women, mamas, doulas or holistic professionals, to ask for help and advice. Check the events page to know the upcoming dates.
- A coordinator of a network helping with food preparation, shopping, playing with other children or cleaning. This can be organised by a friend, the new father or a doula. Please, contact me for more information.
- Facebook private group. By creating a private, I want to give you the opportunity to connect with me and other women in a safe place, sharing the doubts and worries, joys and excitement that are part of the transformation we go through.
I want to create together with you that village that so many of us dream of. For every woman who has just given birth, we only need 7 women to guarantee a full month of support.
I know that together we can do it but we need to make this group grow! Are you with me? I would love if you would like to join us and invite your friends or people you think would benefit from this.
You deserve expert guidance through one of the most important times in your life. The Natural Power of Birth honors your desires and respects your wishes, while professionally informing you of all of your options and giving you the emotional support you need. I’m honored to be of service to you and your family.
Let’s talk about how I can help you plan and prepare for the next step on your journey!
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With warmth and respect, Tamara